Let it go - TD Jakes

If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to...
LET THEM GO!
If you are holding on to past hurts and pains...
LET THEM GO!
If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth...
LET THEM GO!
If someone has angered you...
LET THEM GO!
If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge...
LET THEM GO!
If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction...
LET THEM GO!
If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents...
LET THEM GO!
If you have a bad attitude...
LET THEM GO!
If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better...
LET THEM GO!
If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship.......
LET THEM GO!
If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help themselves...
LET THEM GO!
If you're feeling depressed and stressed...
LET THEM GO!

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Eat and be Merry!

I am a lover of food and not just food but good food! It has to be appealing to the eye, creatively plated and colourful.

I love me a good hot thai Fish curry on a chilly winter afternoon,
A soulful Chicken pasta with lots of colourful peppers for dinner,
Some chilled paw paw on a hot summer evening,
And meat...chicken in particular, Roasted, Stewed, Curried, Grilled, bring it on!
I love Green salads in summer with lots of sweet tomatoes, feta cheese and coulourful peppers!
Once in a while I love me some pap and chicken traditionally cooked with salt white pepper and onions.

I've heard that food can make the heart feel warm and comforted, this reminds me of my favourite comfort food:  Blue Berry Cheesecake Ice cream, Top deck chocolate slab and my recently discovered FKC's Very Berry Crusher Smoothie mmmmmmmmm(mouth watering as I think of it) hahaha!

Aint no need to feel guilty about indulging on your favourite meal. As long as you enjoy and not over eat...go on eat, and be Merry!

I am not my hair

I absolutely loooove India.Arie's song "I am not my hair".
It speaks to me in volumes.

2010 December after I had it with the blazing heat (and motivated by pregnancy hormones)

I walked into a barber shop and shaved it all.  My sleek fancy relaxed bob all went to the floor!  It wasn't my first time doing it, I believe everyime I do that it is a begining of great thing in my life. 

A couple of months down the line I grew my hair to a natural fro, but that wasn't me so I'm back to being the "Weave Queen" that I am.  I am one of the many women who say - "coz I bought it (the weave) then its mine (my hair)". 

They say that the head of a woman is her crowning glory and indeed I agree.  Although what is on your head does not define what iis within you it greatly represents you.  This leads me to India.Arie's lyrics from the song I am not my hair -  "Good hair means curls and waves, Bad hair means you look like a slave, at the turn of the century it's time to redifine who you be you can shave it off like a South African beauty or get in on lock like Bob Marley you can rock a straight like Oprah Winfrey, If its not whats on your head its whats underneath".

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Au Naturel or

Soft lock dread!

So rock on your weave, bald head, lock or go au naturel I still believe woman you are beutifulllll

Still I rise - Maya Angelou

You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I'll rise.

Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
'Cause I walk like I've got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.

Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I'll rise.

Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops.
Weakened by my soulful cries.

Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don't you take it awful hard
'Cause I laugh like I've got gold mines
Diggin' in my own back yard.

You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I'll rise.

Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I've got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?

Out of the huts of history's shame
I rise
Up from a past that's rooted in pain
I rise
I'm a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that's wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise.

Your quiet place...

There comes that time when one needs to walk away from everything. 
Leave all behind and just be..........
These times need to be acknowledged,
they are not luxury, they are a need. 
In this time its just you, you alone with that inner voice that speaks to you and tells everything as it is. 

One needs to take this time when a clear decision need to be taken,
when you want to hear what ur inner wo/man is saying.

When one is in this space away from it all,
away from the loud world that often clouds our lifes with artificial things,
away from the people you love that make you take drastic decision just because you love them,
when you are away from the people who bring out the worst in you. 
Then you are at a perfect place. 
A place where stillness is so loud and clear you can hear all you have to hear. 

I need that, you need that, We all need that once in every while. 
If we just took that time then we would be happier people.  I want that!

What women want...

Women want to be free,
free to love, free to be loved
Freedom to us means being able to be ourselves and not apologetic therefore. 


Woment want it to be know that we need to be Celebrated,
We want to know that we can celebrate our womenhood and not be judged. 
Why should i be ashamed that I am a woman who is able to maintain who I am?  
Should I celebrate my victories in discreet?

Pity doesn't keep us going. 
Do not feel sorry for me coz I am going through a rough patch,
What will your pity give me except belittle the confidence I have?

Women want to be supported. 
So u do not believe in my dream? Fine. 
But support the fact that I have a dream and am not
sitting on my bum waiting for Jack's Luck!
Atleast i am not waiting to winn the lottery then start living the life I want to live.

So, What do women want?
Women want to be free,
Women want to be celebrated,
Woment want to be supported with a lil bit of Love..........

#From A Woman Who Knows#

Booty call

So.......

You are out with your friends have a good time, a couple of drinks, then it's time to head home.  As you drive home, ALONE, coz u did a not score any of the "chicks" that got you guys to pay their bill you think.......hmmm, I know who I can call!

2am - you decide to call me...we are friends with benefits, only when it benefits you.

You: "hey babe i miss u!
Me:  "its 2am r u okay?"
You: "yeah, but like i said...i miss u, can i come over to ur place?"
Me:  "can't you wait till tommorrow?"
You: "nooooo, c'mon girl i want u i want u sooo bad"

Now seriously dude you want me coz could not score not because you miss me. 

Maybe, just maybe we as women have given men the liberty to such to us treat us like we are pieces of nothing.  Ladiez there is nothing like a relationship that is "no strings attached" we are women we are emotional beings there is bound to be emotions involved!

I am taking liberty of my life you can have me when I want you.

I am not your booty call...