Heartbreak Hotel

Our niche market is a group of women who do not even imagine themselves being guests here.  They unexpectedly get their hearts broken. The men in their lives throw the bomb at them when they “think” or “assume” all is well.  He tells u he has found someone else and they get along well, or will lie and say we ‘drifted’ apart.

Most ladies come to check in as walk in guest with no reservation, and we always have a comfy room for you, we understand that this is a getaway you didn’t quite plan for.

A couple of years back Whitney Houston sang about this culprit brother....as she waited for their date he just didn’t pitch she goes:

“You said you'd be here by 9
Instead you took your time
You didn't think to call me boy
Here i sit, tryin not to cry
Askin myself why, u'd do this to me mmm ohh baby”

The song carries on saying:

“All I really wanted was some of your time
Instead u told me lies when someone else was on your mind
What'd u do to me
Look what u did to me
I thought that u were someone who would do me right (do me right)
Until u played with my emotions and u made me cry
What'd u do to me
Can’t take what u did to me”

To the sisters that are singing along to this song, we welcome them with open hearts in our hotel. We serve comfort food for breakfast, lunch and dinner. You know the food that makes u feel good when you are hurting inside? Blueberry cheesecake ice cream, frozen yoghurt, chocolate truffles, French fries with lots ketchup, pancakes with lots of maple syrup and chocolate sauce and sparkling wine any time of the day.

There are comfy rooms that have Kleenex at the side table because we know there will be some shedding of a lot of tears, which is all right.  You can stay in bed all day watching movies or going through all the good memories you had with your special one. The important thing is that after all is said and done your life cannot stop because your heart is broken.  We will all have heartbreak at some stage in our lives but we live through it and carry on living.

By the time you check out all is well, you will realise that you are so much off better without him anyway.  You are beautiful and you are not defined by the relationship you are in.  The hotel is open for you next time you go through such an ordeal again, although we wish you would not, as we hope you will finally meet you knight in shining armour, if not, oh well come check in again. The heartbreak Hotels is open 24/7/365... This is the heartbreak hotel.

My Happiness

I have looked for happiness in all the wrong places most of my life if not all my life. Recently the light bulb came on, I realised that happiness in not found in things, place or people. When you constantly are looking for people to satisfy you hunger or void for happiness the more it grows.  We may sometimes be defined by the relationship in our lives....So and so’s daughter/sister/girlfriend or wife.  In that we end up looking for these people in our lives to bring us happiness. We work hard in the relationships so that they can approve of us, we make sure we never disappoint them in return they will be happy therefore we would be happy too.  The truth is you cannot be everything to everyone.

True happiness is found within our selves, the moment we realise that we are not whom we are expected to be but we are who we are as we are. This may be a little bit confusing; to simplify it I would say:  “accept yourself wholly so that you never judge yourself through other people’s eyes”.  You are woman enough to be the wife that you husband deserves, if he does not see that and goes out seeking whatever that satisfies his desires, you are not to blame. You are a perfect mother to your child/ren if someone feels they can judge your parenting that is their own indaba, you alone knows how to parent YOUR kid/s.  You are the best friend that anyone could ever ask for, if your current friend says you do not give enough of your time to their friendship, sad, they must deal with it you give only what you can and no one will die.

Now back to happiness why should you look into your marriage/relationship for happiness? Why should you look to your kid/s or friends for happiness? When you are content and true in all you do in relationships there is nothing more. True happiness comes when You FULLY accept that you can only give so much and people can only give you so much. Until then, you will always look for happiness all in the wrong places.

Is this true or is this true?

This is an email that a friend sent to me. I though I should share, ladies comment if you will, I totally agree with this....

Nobody stole your man!

Accept that he got weak in the face of another woman and made an irresponsible decision to touch a body that wasn't for him to touch.

When he left you, was there a leash around his neck? Was he muted and chained, unable to fight to come back to you when that other woman ‘took’ him?
...
Nobody stole your man! Regardless of whether she knew you were with him, he knew HE was with you, but decided Tonight, Baby’s not worth it, let me try myself out, nobody’s gonna catch me.

So why do you fight HER like she broke your heart when he’s the one that trampled it to the ground, but after a deep-sighed I’m sorry baby, I’ll never do it again, the one who betrayed you more gets the most love?

Nobody stole your man! Stop hating on a woman who simply lived her life and was approached by a man who publicly disowned you for sex. None of his male friends stopped him, and trust me baby they sat and laughed, joked together and gave him a nod when he walked out of that bar with her to turn her inside-out, in ways he never does you, because you’re too ‘tired’ and comfortable with your secretly crumbling relationship.

Nobody stole your man! So stop embarrassing yourself and speaking badly about an innocent woman, when every other night he secretly distorts your reputation with his frisky, boyish charm, texting I love you‘s that you later discovered were from 5 other women’s beds. You know he’s a charming trouser-snake, yet you keep him thinking he’s gonna change when he’s not ready to call you My All, but opts to chug-tequila at a bar and bring home a colorful bouquet of STD’s for you to keep.

Now you’re gonna leave him and say men are dogs, when in actual fact you don’t know what a man is because a man doesn’t do to you what he did, but your bitter, remorseful heart is going to keep hating on men, yet turning around to give that asshole another chance, only to get disappointed again, and create an even longer list of women to hate while your ‘man to love’ list stays at 1.

I feel sorry for you. You don’t deserve to get your heart broken, but you’re too busy admiring the view from the bottom that you’re forgetting what a priceless gem you are. You’re failing to recognize that you are with a boy, not a man.

Biggest beauty crimes

Ladies, the mirror needs to be our best friend. Before leaving the house take a quick moment to just stand in front of the mirror to look at yourself. Most of the time we have one  too many items with our accessories. If you wear make up, better to use the bathroom mirror during application because there is more natural light there, so when you go out side you will look more natural than "ghosty". Also remember that my foundation shade is not you foundation shade. There are colours that are not meant for some of us so be careful when choosing the shade, e.g. red lipstick there are different shades of red find one that suites you, and pleeeeeeaze do not use a black liner on a ruby/red lip colour. Here are a couple of biiiiiiig beauty NO NO's!

What was she thinking when she left the house??? and who said blonde hair suits us all?

Over plucked, eyebrows...the moment you have to "draw" your eyebrows know their over tweezed, we shape our eye brows to frame our face and we need only to "FILL" them.

Lip liner needs to be 3 shades darker than the lip colour, not any darker. Black eye liner is not meant to be used as a lip liner.

For more informative beauty advice and skin Topics please follw Miss Euphony on twiter @SkinTherapistSA like her page on Facebook Skin Therapist SA

Business management

Let us do a little bit of business management,
nothing hectic, straight and to the point really:

"I Love my man(YES), that's MY business...
You may know his other girlfriends, that's YOUR business...
His friends may know who he flirts with, that's THEIR business...
Now, would it be nice if we ALL mind OUR business???"
#BusinessManagement

Something to think about...

Saw this from one of my friends, it really got me thinking.


"Once you are attached to someone,
well basically you are f****d
because somany thing could go wrong,
they could die
they could leave you
they could find someone better
they could not feel the same way about you
they could loose feelings
they could disown your trust
and they can tell you lies without you even knowing it
there's just so much to loose when you are attached to someone"

Disclaimer: Thoughts expressed in this qoutation are not that of the blogger I the owner/author of this blog can not be held responsible for the fact that the minds of the respected authors may just well be as disfunctional as my own.

Winter Favourites

Winter is not my most favourite season, it gets grey and cold which can tend to be depressing. So get me through the misery I have my favourite things. Here I have listed only a few that get me going through the cold months of winter.

 

Food and Beverages:

I am a fan of comfort food (hides), will try not to indulge too much this winter but food has a good way of warming one up. Recently I tasted the yummiest butternut soup; it was so spicy and creamy. With fresh bread rolls nothing could beat a bowl of creamy butternut soup (thanks Chef Herby). To kick start my day I always have a cup of milk-free rooibos with a hint of sugar, it’s said to be an anti oxidant and keeps me going till mid morning. To end my day a mild cup of Chamomile is the best as it relaxes me and soothes me for a nice good night rest for those loooong never ending nights.

Body products:

What is better way to start to start those chilly evenings than a long luscious bath followed with the most soothing body cream? My favourite products for bath time are: Clinique's 7 day facial scrub, Justine's cocoa butter and glycerine body scrub, clicks' assorted essential oils, Oh So Heavenly’s new body creams' range and of cause the old trusted Bi-oil. After a lovely facial scrub put on a your trusted facial musk, dry brush your whole body then exfoliate using the body scrub, rinse with warm water then soak your body in a hot tub filled with water and a few drops of your favourite essential oils (my personal favourite is lavender, eucalyptus and tea tree oils). After this glorious bath pat skin your body dry with a fluffy soft towel and moisturise with your favourite body cream or body butter. I have been using Bio-oil for years to help clear marks, spots and stretch mark on my skin and it leaves my body feeling soft and well hydrated. Just thinking about these makes me want to get home to have a bath.

Scents:

For every day and every mood a girl must have a scent to compliment it. I am in love with perfumes that are sweet with top notes of that you cannot help but notice, middle notes that are refreshing and subtle base notes. My little collection consists of Mediterranean by Elizabeth Arden, Outspoken by Fergie (Avon), Euphoria by Calvin Klein, Incandessence by Avon and Tabasheer Gold from the house of Justine. I say Girl's new best friend is her fragrance.

Accessories:
Top of my winter list is Scarves, I looooove scarves in light materials, bright colours and obstructive graphics. Scarves and Pashminas have a tendency to just brighten up any outfit. Pumps are my favourite

shoes, yep, they are! In all bright colours, wear them in pink, gold, red, green, whatever colour that will bring some spark to your grey winter day. Last but not least nail colour...I am currently wearing my nails in a bright sea green! I will be wearing my nails in lovely colours: Pink, Red, Purple, Neon Orange anything but the old simple "clear" lol. The "WOW" brand and "Sinful Colours" brands have the colours I love.

With this list before I know it winter will be over and I would have gone through a grey miserable day. Happy Winter Guys and Dolls!

P.H.D.S - Be alert!

There is a very sickening disease on the outbreak, its only affects females, seemingly black females, watch that it doesn’t get you ladies. It is called PHDS (Pull Her Down Syndrome), most affected “patients” are not aware they have it and when u spend lots of time with some one that has it, you might get it, as it is very infectious .

Symptoms of PHDS:

When another lady makes it big in the corporate world you ask: “I Wonder who she slept with to get this far?”

Your friend is happily married or in love you say: “She is just pulling a perfect front or She must have bewitched him to lover her the way he does”

You see a fellow colleague rocking a sizzling hot outfit u say: “It must be fake”

Your friend is growing spiritually you say: “She is after the pastor”

She throws an awesome party, which is the talk of town you say: “I can do better than that”

She goes on holiday with her hard earned money and savings you say: “She must be dating an old rich man”

These are only few of the symptoms, if you have one or more you are already infected, but there is hope for you, it’s a curable disease fortunately.  Learn to be positive and compliment other women, because when you pull her down, it does not make you any better it just shows that you want to be in her shoes. Accept yourself as you are, work for things you want and celebrate with other women in their victories.

Remedies for PHDS:

Compliment (genuinely) the lady who has won employee of the quarter for two times in a row.

If she is rocking that Jimmy Choo tell her you in love with them and would die for a pair (if you would).

Smile at the woman you do not know and tell her hair looks pretty instead of saying “it aint even real Brazilian”

Be happy for your sister when she finally finds the man who adores her and loves her truly.

Share you beauty secrets with other ladies.

When she’s slimmed down don’t ask if she is “sick” compliment a sister!

Remember it takes a lot of energy and emotion to belittle someone else, when you hate someone because of what she has or is able to achieve it is because you want what she has. If there are qualities you see and hate in someone it is because she a reflection of you.  Let’s put a stop to this sickness my sisters all we have is each other at the end of the day. Go on and spread the love.

Meet Collen...

I'd like to introduce u to an inspiring super cool friend of mine Collen Nxumalo. Born and breed in Nelpruit at Kanyamazane, Collen is making his or so very visible mark in SA as a writter. He has  been nominated for 3 awards namely: Gordimer Short Story Award, Best Poetry Award and First Time Published Author Award in the SA Literary Awards 2013 for his Book entitled : from This Point

1.   Tell us a lil about yourself. Who is Collen Nxumalo?

Mmmhh let’s see… Collen Nxumalo is a skinny brother born & raised in a township called Lekazi in Nelspruit. So ambitious & just like everybody that has big dreams, I want to see them come true, I love kids a lot and my biggest dream is to setup a kids community center in my hometown that will have all the arts facilities, libraries, theatre, etc … I believe we should have more of those than to have lots of shisa-nyama spots then blame the kids for being otherwise.

2."From this point"......tell us about it.

- From This Point is my pride, it will be my loved project forever, it is my 1^st published book that follows this young ghetto boy’s life battling to find his God given talent and put it to use & that boy is me, it is semi based on my life and has fiction too,  it has poetry as well, I wanted to do something different, when I started writing the book, I was doing From This Point the story & not poetry, but as the story advances ‘Sibusiso’ (which is my second name) the lead character in the story discovers his talent in arts & so I decided to put on my collection of poetry in the book, the poetry is real life experiences, things that I went through and things that are saw other people going through, so the poetry in From This Point is deep and real."I believe success is a journey and each journey has to start somewhere, so yeah there’s no other place to begin your journey to success than From This Point (which the point you currently at)”

3. Do u ever get writers block? Tell us what exactly happens and when going through it how u deal with such.

Oh yes I do get Writer’s block, I believe every writer does. I like writing about real stuff that’s going around the world, so every time I get writer’s block I just hit the road or go chill with friends or go partying and get some real inspiration and experience from/on what’s going on around and come back and put it on paper, sometime I’d just take out my phone & make a note of what I’m seeing at the place I’m currently at so not to forget and when I get home I write about it.

4. What are u currently working on?
I finished my 2^nd book Titled Heaven Is A better Place which was supposed to be out in February 2013 but due to the lot of things going on around From This Point the new one will be out by July, I’m also working on a tour with American actress, model & author Angela Ardis for her book titled Inside A thug’s Heart about her & the late rapper Tupac Shakur. She did the foreword for my 1^st & 2^nd book. I’ve also launched my company From This Point Foundation that will cater for artists, the 1^st artist with the company is me  & now we just got a music artist by the name of Flexi which From This Point Foundation will be releasing his album this year.

5. You have this obsession with hot wingz. Lol. What's with that?

lol Hot Wings … that’s like my girlfriend forever on my hands & lips lol …. I love hot wings, you know since I stay alone and can’t cook, that’s how I got introduced to hot wings, easy bucks menu lol.

6. Which South African writer has inspired u the most?

Zola 

7. What are you currently reading?

The Art of War by Sun Tzu

8. The disc that's in your CD shuttle right now?

2pac- Collection … Flexi-Flexibility… Zola-Unyezi & Imphepho… Zonke -Ina Ethe… Teargas -Number Number & Dark or Blue…. Pro Kid Continua….. Miriam Makeba Welele….. Zakwe-Zakwe…. AB Crazy-Home Coming…. Bongo Riot-I’m an African
9.Best long distance drive music album?

Zonke- Ina Etha

10. 2013 is...... another year to work hard and achieve more goals

With all that, I  wish you my the best in all your future endevours may you be fruitful in all that you do.

You Inspire Me

You Inspire me to be free in Word,
You inspire me to Write My heart out
Knowing that the messege will get across to you loud and clear.
You may not know but you inspire me to fulfil the Word of God found in
II Corinthians 4:8-9:
" We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. "

I may not like u, but I like that u inspire me to wake up every morning and see the beauty and strength that God has placed inside of me. The more you push the more you inspire me. You inspire me. You are a gift from God above just to INSPIRE ME!

No grey areas: it IS what it IS

Respect is not inherited...it is EARNED! No grey areas it is Black and White and to the point.