My Happiness

I have looked for happiness in all the wrong places most of my life if not all my life. Recently the light bulb came on, I realised that happiness in not found in things, place or people. When you constantly are looking for people to satisfy you hunger or void for happiness the more it grows.  We may sometimes be defined by the relationship in our lives....So and so’s daughter/sister/girlfriend or wife.  In that we end up looking for these people in our lives to bring us happiness. We work hard in the relationships so that they can approve of us, we make sure we never disappoint them in return they will be happy therefore we would be happy too.  The truth is you cannot be everything to everyone.

True happiness is found within our selves, the moment we realise that we are not whom we are expected to be but we are who we are as we are. This may be a little bit confusing; to simplify it I would say:  “accept yourself wholly so that you never judge yourself through other people’s eyes”.  You are woman enough to be the wife that you husband deserves, if he does not see that and goes out seeking whatever that satisfies his desires, you are not to blame. You are a perfect mother to your child/ren if someone feels they can judge your parenting that is their own indaba, you alone knows how to parent YOUR kid/s.  You are the best friend that anyone could ever ask for, if your current friend says you do not give enough of your time to their friendship, sad, they must deal with it you give only what you can and no one will die.

Now back to happiness why should you look into your marriage/relationship for happiness? Why should you look to your kid/s or friends for happiness? When you are content and true in all you do in relationships there is nothing more. True happiness comes when You FULLY accept that you can only give so much and people can only give you so much. Until then, you will always look for happiness all in the wrong places.